HERetic by Erin Esser

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  • For the woman who keeps everyone else okay

Stop being so damn tired from keeping everyone else okay

I help women see the patterns they built to stay safe as kids, feel them in their body, and start choosing themselves... so life finally feels like theirs.

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SOUND FAMILIAR?

You're the one everyone leans on

You're good at holding it all together. But you can't remember the last time someone asked what you wanted... and you're not sure you'd know.

The yes comes out first

Someone asks for something and you've agreed before you even checked in with yourself.

You replay every conversation

In the shower, in the car, at 2am. Did I say it wrong? Are they mad at me?

You're exhausted and can't say why

You rest and you're still tired, because the tired comes from managing everyone else.

HOW I WORK

See it, feel it, change it... in that order

1

See the pattern

Name what you do and what it was protecting when you were small. This is where most people get stuck.

2

Feel it in your body

The pattern started in your body, so that's where it has to shift. This is the part nobody taught you.

3

Change how you respond

Once your mind and body connect, you start choosing differently... one small time after another.

You stay in charge of your life. I won't tell you whether to go home for the holidays or what to say to your mother. I'll help you feel safe enough in your own body to decide for yourself.

FOUR WAYS TO START

Start where you are. Every step gives you something to use right away.

STEP 1

The free Adaptation Map

See the 10 patterns behind your people pleasing and what each one was protecting.

STEP 2

Come Back to Yourself

4 guided audios and a 7-day experience for the guilt that shows up after you say no.

  • You leave with: a way to stay with your no, $27

STEP 3

The Holiday Nervous System Kit

Audios and a plan to get through the holidays without turning back into the kid who keeps everyone calm.

STEP 4

Choose You 2027

One topic a month, one live call a month, and small weekly tools so 2027 actually feels like yours.

  • You leave with: a year of practice choosing yourself, opens January 1

WHAT YOU'LL FIND HERE

Tools you use in real moments, not more homework

  • The Adaptation Map: a free PDF of the 10 patterns behind people pleasing
  • Come Back to Yourself: 4 voice-only audios and a 7-day guided experience
  • The Holiday Nervous System Kit: audios and a fill-in plan for the holidays
  • Choose You 2027: a monthly membership with one live call a month

THE SAME MOMENT, TWO WAYS

From saying yes before you think to answering as yourself

HI, I'M ERIN

Erin Esser

Erin was the responsible one... the people pleaser who kept everybody okay. She's been diagnosed with ADHD and CPTSD and has restarted her life and identity more than once.

She's coached women since 2016 with parts work, inner child work and shadow work, all through See it, Feel it, Change it. Every tool here is one she uses herself.

NOW OPEN

Get the Holiday Nervous System Kit

Audios and a fill-in plan so you walk out of the holidays still feeling like you.

Holiday Nervous System Kit

Digital kit, instant access

  • Left-Right Calming Sound to Slow Racing Thoughts
  • 3-Minute Bathroom Reset
  • When the Guilt Hits After You Say No
  • Plan Your Holiday Before You Go
  • Bonus audio in the first 48 hours

One payment

$27

USD, paid once, no subscription

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Not ready for the Kit? Start with the free Map. See the Kit here.

QUESTIONS

Not sure where to start?

Write to me anytime at erin@erinesser.com

I've never done any of this. Where do I start?

Start with the free Adaptation Map. It shows you the patterns, and everything else builds on that.

What do I need?

Your phone, a pair of headphones and a few quiet minutes.

How much time does it take?

Some tools take three minutes. The Map takes about twenty.

Is this therapy?

No. It's coaching and nervous system support. If you're in crisis or want clinical treatment, a licensed therapist is the right person for that.

Do I keep what I buy?

Yes. The digital products are yours to come back to whenever a pattern gets loud again.

Can I get a refund?

Because everything is digital, all sales are final. If something isn't working, email erin@erinesser.com and I'll help.

You've kept everyone else okay long enough. Now it's your turn.

Start with the free Adaptation Map and see what's been running your life... it takes about twenty minutes.

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